Honor, respect, affection, grief, humor… a place to share all things Aiden


Feels like forever gone…


Aiden, you are always in our hearts ♥ We love you ♥

The best memorial to Aiden is to stand strong for who you are,

Stand strong for those who are not like you…

For everyone to have their own safe and honoured place in their own way.

You are precious, just as he was.

Memories of Aiden.

L’il Dude, Big Heart

(Artwork © 2010 by estate of Aiden Rivera Schaeff) 

Aiden Rivera Schaeff was a Bethesda-Chevy Chase High School student who entered ninth grade as a girl and after identifying that he felt more at peace as a boy, transitioned to his new identity without hiding who he was.

The school authorities were extremely supportive of his determination to live his life as who he was.

Some of his fellow-students were not as kind.

He committed suicide on April 22, 2010, one month shy of his 18th birthday.

Aiden not only had tremendous personal courage, he was also charming and fun-loving. At his memorial service, many of his friends noted that he had the singular ability to connect with others. His loss was devastating not only to his family but to the wide circle of people who had stood by his side as he made his remarkable journey.

His moms urge you to think about this: How you speak to others matters. Thoughtless, off-hand comments can literally kill people. Each of us helps to create the world. Be kind in it. If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.

In honor of Aiden’s life, and in an effort to help other youths at risk to survive, we are establishing an endowment fund at the American University in Washington, D.C., to fund student-run initiatives aimed at: 1) Reducing bullying against Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered (LGBT) high-school-aged youth, and 2) Helping at-risk youth to survive bullying when it does occur.

To help raise funds to establish the endowment, which has to reach a minimal amount of $50,000 in order to be perpetually managed by the university, we are offering this medallion for sale. The artwork on the medallion is Aiden’s.

For information on contributing to the endowment fund, and purchasing a medallion please click on the medallion or email aidenriveraschaeff@gmail.com



This is a place to share stories, music, drawings, videos…

by, for and about Aiden.

This site will be permanent and so perhaps a better place to put things than Facebook. You can even copy and paste your posts from Facebook or other sites to here, post links to YouTube…

You can mail any content you want posted to aidenriveraschaeff.com@gmail.com

Thank-you, Auntie Jenny

(some of )The Many Faces of Aiden

Members List

Messages to Aiden

*** to add photos, video, music Please email me if you have things to add to the site. We are very happy to have any and all photos, videos that you have. Thanks, Jenny. ***

Angels come in so many forms, blessed are we that are touched by them whether we are aware of it at the time or not.  

116 Responses to Honor, respect, affection, grief, humor… a place to share all things Aiden

  1. Asia says:

    It’s 2015, I never got a chance to meet Aiden. I attend BCC as a sophomore and would like to say that I’m sorry. Empty words to many but as heartfelt as can be. He’s not forgotten.

  2. cindy says:

    Thinking that the gentle spirit of Addie is romping in that meadow with your spirit today….

  3. Emmett says:

    thinking of you buddy ❤

  4. Sam says:

    I miss you. ❤ Love Sammy.

  5. cindy says:

    This body is not me.
    I am not limited by this body.

    I am life without boundaries.

    I have never been born,

    and I have never died.

    Look at the ocean and the sky filled with stars, manifestations from my wondrous true mind.

    Since before time, I have been free.

    Birth and death are only doors through which we pass, sacred thresholds on our journey.

    Birth and death are a game of hide- and seek.

    So laugh with me,

    hold my hand,

    let us say good-bye,

    say good-bye, to meet again soon.

    We meet today.

    We will meet again tomorrow.

    We will meet at the source every moment.

    We meet each other in all forms of life.

    ~By Thich Nhat Hanh, Chanting and Recitations from Plum Village.

  6. leo says:

    Don’t ever be a victim guys. Fight for yourself because you deserve it.

  7. Cindy says:

    Here comes Patches, love. I will dream of you both in the fields today.

  8. Matt says:

    Back when i was first coming out i had heard about this group called RYA and Aiden was one of the 1st people i met there 🙂 He was also one of the first transgendered people i ever met and rly opened my eyes to the possibility that your life doesnt have to be devoid of pleasures just because other people around u are try to bring u down. He was a rly sweet guy who encouraged me to be myself and not be afriad to of what others thought because in that group we were in a safe enviroment and everyone encouraged each other to be open and have an honest dialogue. I remeber his laugh and his hugs mostly these day and how his smile always felt like the best pick me up. He even gave me the courage to leave my house dressed as dorthy for the anual halloween costume party (something i fondly look bk on as i remember his wide eyed excitment at my character choice and my sparkly red high heels) I never really had the chance to get to know him outside of the group but the time that i did get to spend with him i always looked forward to and knew hed always have some funny quip to get me laughing uncontroably …. i rly miss him alot truth be told and it hadn’t rly sunk in until a little while ago how much i missed hearing his voice and hearing his postive outlook on transtion and hearing his honest feedback about my issues with my gender identity. I’m rly glad I had the chance to met him 🙂

  9. Patti says:

    Recently met Aiden’s Mom and became friends. Hearing her share his story makes my difficulties seem like nothing.

  10. B says:

    Still trying to find an answer

  11. matthew g. hall says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss. Seems like a really good kid. Very sorry.

  12. Happy birthday buddy.

  13. Dear friends and family of Aiden,

    This is Christi O’Connor, founder of the youth-led anti bullying crusade, The Monster March Against Bullying. Our founding members are families of bullied teens who’ve taken their own lives. Every day, our teens across the country reach out to educate other teens on bullying and to recruit them because we know no one influences teens more than peers.

    Aiden is honored in our Teens We’ve Lost Gallery:
    (www.facebook.com/youthvoicetv) so that no one ever forgets him. So far, we’ve documented 90 cases of bullied teen suicide– just since 2009–and we’ll include every teen we’ve lost as soon as we get the funding. As we’ve researched these tragic stories, we’ve documented how schools, police, mental health experts, social networks and media have handled bullied teen suicides. It breaks our heart. So much must change.

    We’re asking you to unite with us to make this happen. There is strength in our numbers. We must stand as one to educate the public and to turn the tide of our bullying culture. The Monster March is going to host a Bullying Education National Telethon on TV, Radio and The Internet. We need you with us. The public will be moved by your story. You are the change agents who will inspire.

    I’m sure you’ll have questions I’m happy to answer. Please email me if you’d like to be part of our telethon or if you need separate, confidential help. We also assist bullied teens and families in the pursuit of justice.

    We’re now developing telethon details including location and a date. We hope to have the event within the next three months. Time is as critical. As you’ll see in our Teens We’ve Lost Gallery (above), we are now losing ONE bullied American teenager EVERY WEEK to suicide.

    My Email Address: christimonstermarch@gmail.com.

    Christi O’Connor.

  14. Dan Hobson says:

    i found this site via the video on youtube and just thought ill tell you that i tried suicide 6 times all failed (Obviously) but now im glad they failed

    • Janis M. May says:

      Reach out, reach out! Loving people will hold you, cuddle you, see you through hurt! You will create your circle of loving human beings! Do not, do not give in to suicide! It CAN and it WILL get better! If you feel fragile, write me please: jaemmmae2002@yahoo.ca
      You are an incredible human being that is needed in this world, loved in this world, valued in this world!

  15. Ane says:

    I remeber such a wondeful person. If I’d have known such struggle behind that face, I would have told him he is not alone in the fight against such a problem.

  16. h.mai says:

    I wish I met Aiden. One of my best friends knew Aiden very well and it still hurts them to this day to think about it. I knew we would have gotten along.

  17. Ace says:

    I found this website via a friend on Trevorspace. I didn’t know aiden, but I cried for a few hours after finding this. I recently had a run in with what I now know would have been a mistake- I obviously survived- but after reading this it reminds me of how many people it would hurt if I was gone. Even if they don’t show it now. Rest in peace, aiden. You continue to save lives two years after your passing.

  18. Jamie B says:

    Aiden, It’s been two years, and I still miss you every day. I can’t express in words how badly I wish I could tackle/hug you while you laugh and squirm around. I miss you, and I love you with all that I am. -Jamie

  19. JDP says:

    I was a student of BCC myself, and I always saw Aiden around. I really wanted to get to know him, and though I didn’t know him personally I think of him often. I think we would have gotten along.

    I recently dreamt of him. He was happy, calm, and attractive as ever! though much of the dream is a bit fuzzy, I do remember him offering me a profound sense of comfort and peace, and telling me to be confident. I know this is a sign that he is at peace.

    So sorry for your loss. I hope Aiden visits my dreams again soon!

    • Janis says:

      Thank you so much for sharing JDP. Your dream brings me great solace as I am sure it will bring to others upon reading your post.

  20. Amanda Mullins says:

    Although I didn’t know him, this page has touched my heart. My heart goes out to the family and loved ones of Aiden Rivera Schaeff. I wish I’d known him.


  21. To save the school as an institution we have to start from human interaction.

  22. janis says:

    “All that lives, lives forever. Only the shell, the perishable passes away. The spirit is without end. Eternal. Deathless.”

    Happy 19th birthday old friend!

  23. cindy says:

    Thinking of that day years ago and trying to embrace that memory .

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